In the world of personal development, transformational thinking is about looking at your life in terms of the person you are becoming each and every day; a person who is creating the circumstances of your life, not falling victim to them.
I asked a new client if I could share part of a conversation we had in a recent personal development coaching session and he agreed. He related to me that he had arrived at a point in his life where he felt stuck in a dead-end job and trapped in a loveless marriage. He shared further that he has felt this way for almost ten months now and doesn’t know if he should hang in there, or throw in the towel. I told him that most people feel that way at one time or another and that I too have felt that way.
“You?” he asked, “But you seem so together… with a great business, a beautiful family and so much freedom to pursue hobbies and volunteer. I doubt you could’ve had as rough a time as I’m having right now.”
“Don’t be too sure.” I said. “I went in the Army right out of High School, got married at age 20, had my first child at 22, got out of the Army at 25 and spent the next 2 years working as a laborer in construction and then as an iron-worker. I had another child in there somewhere and at age 28 my wife and I opened our first Subway. Three years later my business was on the brink of bankruptcy and my marriage was on the brink of divorce. Trapped and loveless??? How about that plus desperation and hopelessness weighing so heavily upon me that I could hardly breathe?”
He looked at me with a confused look then after a moment said, “I would have never guessed by looking at you today. How did you turn things around?”
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