In the world of personal development, transformational thinking is about looking at your life in terms of the person you are becoming each and every day; a person who is creating the circumstances of your life, not falling victim to them.
I asked a new client if I could share part of a conversation we had in a recent personal development coaching session and he agreed. He related to me that he had arrived at a point in his life where he felt stuck in a dead-end job and trapped in a loveless marriage. He shared further that he has felt this way for almost ten months now and doesn’t know if he should hang in there, or throw in the towel. I told him that most people feel that way at one time or another and that I too have felt that way.
“You?” he asked, “But you seem so together… with a great business, a beautiful family and so much freedom to pursue hobbies and volunteer. I doubt you could’ve had as rough a time as I’m having right now.”
“Don’t be too sure.” I said. “I went in the Army right out of High School, got married at age 20, had my first child at 22, got out of the Army at 25 and spent the next 2 years working as a laborer in construction and then as an iron-worker. I had another child in there somewhere and at age 28 my wife and I opened our first Subway. Three years later my business was on the brink of bankruptcy and my marriage was on the brink of divorce. Trapped and loveless??? How about that plus desperation and hopelessness weighing so heavily upon me that I could hardly breathe?”
He looked at me with a confused look then after a moment said, “I would have never guessed by looking at you today. How did you turn things around?”
“Transformational Thinking;” I said, “learning to shift my view from that of a human being to that of a human becoming. We are each on a journey through life, starting as one person and continuously transforming into another, constantly evolving and arriving at a new place with every passing day. What I learned was: Who I became and where I ended up was my choice. So once I shifted my focus from being stuck to the kind of future-life I hoped to create, I began to do things differently and, for the first time, started living my life on purpose.”
He sat quietly for a minute or two, thinking… then he said, “I want to transform my career and my marriage into what I’ve always dreamed it should be… Can you help me do that?”
“Absolutely” I said, “We can get started today.”
Are you feeling trapped? Is your business or career what it should be? Is your relationship with your spouse what it should be? Are you putting on a brave face for everyone to see, while living in quiet desperation?
If you answered yes to any of these questions there are some things I want you to know:
First of all, many people struggle with these issues, so don’t feel you’re the only one…
Secondly, understand that hope is not something you lose; it’s something you let go of, so hang on no matter what…
Thirdly, you have the power to create a new plan, one that will lead you to the life of your choosing…
Finally, you are not alone. My Gold Coaching Program was created to help you, so just contact me and we can get started transforming your life into what you always dreamed it should be…
Strive to be more!
Coach Morse
